Still on my quest to present ways to be pure in your life! I preach tomorrow at youth and feel a HUGE burden to instill in them determination in the area of sexual purity. That burden flows over into the adults at North Creek.
So, here’s my tips for affair-proofing your marriage. They will seem overly simple. That’s because if you draw the right boundary, all of the rest is irrelevant!
1. See my last two posts. Do those.
2. Never be alone with the person of the opposite sex. Ever. No really…never ever. In 12 years of marriage, Mark and I have painstakingly done what it took to avoid being alone with the opposite sex for more than about 2 minutes (the amount of time it takes to get out of that situation). Here’s the main reason…it’s hard to have an inappropriate relationship in public. No matter what other temptation you face in your life, the one thing you can control most effectively is your environment. I am now so trained that it has become second-nature.
One important facet: “Alone with someone of the opposite sex” includes chat rooms, extended IMing, and phone calls that go beyond business issues.
I can’t tell you how grateful I am for this one tool. No matter how strong or weak I feel, I can always control this facet of my purity. And it is a guardrail that protects me from so many other pitfalls. I’ve had a lot of people tell me that this boundary is ridiculous and impractical. OK, well, then call me the Queen of the Ridiculous because my purity in God’s eyes and my commitment to my husband is more important than my practicality.