A friend of our, Pastor Troy Jones of New Life in Renton, recently wrote this note below. It really spoke to me (especially with our chaos lately) and I always try to pass on things that impact my life, so enjoy!
A couple of weeks ago I over heard my wife and two girls plan a girls day. The plan was to spend the day shopping, doing nails and whatever girls do together. I thought this was great. Our girls have been so busy lately. As their dad I love seeing them spend time with mom.
There plan was to do this on a Monday. I think veterans day. School was out. It was Sunday night and I was preparing for bed. It was 11:45 PM. Very tired after speaking three times at New Life all day. Sunday night I am wired, tired and just want to be by myself. As I was taking a bath I got an idea. My idea was “I should surprise my girls” and go get them three roses. This thought entered my mind and left it very quickly. It was late. I was tired. Why should I use my creative energy on my family? I hate to admit I even thought like this.
As I was thinking about this another very compelling thought came to me. “Troy, if this was Saturday night and you got a great idea for your message on Sunday…you would do it.” You better believe I would. I will do anything to bring fresh ideas and creativity to my church. From time to time I will talk to myself like this. I believe this was the Holy Spirit gently reminding me what is important in my life. Here is the question I wrestled with this late Sunday night: “Why do I spend so much creative energy on my ministry and give so little to my family?” Ouch! This hurts. Badly. I work hard on being creative with my speaking, the church and the ministry. Why can’t I come up with one creative idea for my family? Why do I do the same date nights with my wife every week? Movie and dinner.
I am just like you. I say my family is the most important in my life. Then, why? Why do they get the left overs?
As I was wrestling with this I decided, “Tonight I am going to give my family what they deserve”….they deserve my best energy, creative ideas and attention to details.
I jumped out of the bathtub, got dressed and went to QFC. I bought three roses..one for each of my girls. I went to a cash machine and got 15 $20 dollar bills. I knew a “girl day” out would include shopping. Shopping includes money. I got back in my car. I wasn’t sure exactly how I would give this to them. But, I kept thinking, “I am a creative person on my job…I can have some creative ideas for my family.”
When I got home, I went to the computer and typed out a note saying, “Enjoy the day on daddy” “no boys allowed” “Make your mom spend this money.” Then I went to our family room and took the $20 dollar bills and put them in a shape of our heart. I put the three roses and note on the money. In the morning they all found this money and roses. I was hoping they liked the roses better than the money…but I was wrong….they loved the money.
The girls loved it. They bought all types of clothing. They actually went to build a bear and my wife bought herself a new stuffed bear. They gave the bear some strange name. I can’t recall it.
My three girls loved the day.
It all started with one question–why do I give my best creative energy to my ministry and give my family my left overs? Fair question.
Our families–your family deserves your best. We wonder why are marriages our dull..well..when is the last time you got off your butt and did something creative for your spouse? We wonder why our kids rebel..when is the last time you left work early and did something for them? When? Why not? What is wrong with me? us?
Stoping wondering why you have a dull marriage..do something about it. Get a book on creativity. Copy someones idea. Do something. Anything. When you were dating you actually looked good…you took care of yourself…do it again. Call your spouse…send them a text…do something, anything.
My girls can’tremember what I preached that Sunday. Honestly I can’t remember. But, they will always remember the three roses. Creative sermons are fine. They need to happen. But, let’s give a little of that creative energy to the ones we love the most.