In college I had a roommate named Stacey. She and I were fast friends and although distance has separated us, Stacey and her husband, Jon, will always be friends of ours. Stacey and Jon had a difficult process of having children, which included YEARS of prayer, invitro twins, and another little invitro girl. Below is a blog Jon wrote that I thought I would share with you. I know there are several of you out there who are trying to get pregnant and the irony of Jon and Stacey’s story may bring encouragement to you. I know after years of praying for them, I can’t read this without crying. We serve a faithful God.
Sarah Laughed. I Get That.
December 11, 2009
As I told you before, our family walked through ten years of barrenness before we finally had our first children. We have three now, all conceived with the help of doctors. We needed doctor help because of some specific medical conditions that made it next to impossible for us to conceive.
I say “next to impossible”, because, yes, we are now officially expecting child number 4 (next June)!
It’s fairly cliche, really. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard this story: “Our friends tried for years, then they all of a sudden got pregnant.” Whenever I mentioned to friends that we were all done having kids after three, they often poked me back with “Hey wouldn’t it be funny if you all of a sudden got pregnant?”
And it IS funny. Abraham and Sarah both laughed when God promised them a son “by this time next year.” I think I get the joke. It’s funny when you think about it – now, after all this time. After all our efforts and processes and procedures and waiting and hoping and praying and crying and believing and asking and even receiving, now.
It’s a funny thing for us to have what is by all measures a “normal” pregnancy – to not be at the doctor 2-3 times a week, fretting over every detail and number and level. To experience the relative ease of the “normal” process.
It’s funny to see the reaction of doctors, who have the empirical data on our condition. Most people know their eggo is preggo when they get two lines on the EPT. Our docs wanted to test for a whole host of other conditions first – because the LAST thing they were thinking was “baby on board.” Once it was confirmed, our baby docs wanted to send over some ultrasound pics to our fertility docs – sort of an interdepartmental “in your face.” Funny.
Of course, the most wonderful thing of all is seeing the hand of God in this miraculous moment. We will have another child because the One who holds the whole universe together decided we needed one more. And He decided to do it in just His way, in His time, and He is hilarious.
When I found out, I laughed too. Not with cynicism or doubt, but because it’s a moment that’s ironic, and perfect, and full of pure joy. And that’s been a long time coming.
Now a prayer for all those still waiting – waiting for children, or healing, or a thousand other things. May you gain strength by trusting in Jesus. May you know beyond your doubts that you are not alone, not forgotten, not cursed. May He give you the desire of your heart. In His way. In His time. And when He does, I hope you laugh!
Now let’s go with a boy this time. Four women in the house is nice, but five – not funny.
Congrats Jon and Stacey. From the bottom of my heart, I wish you the very best.
Thanks for the kind words, Stacy. We are praying along with you for those in your community “hoping to be expecting.” God is faithful, and HIs timing is always just right. Thanks for being good friends and all your prayers for us – they were powerful and effective!
Thank you (and Jon) for this…I started bawling near the last few paragraphs.
God used your blog just now to remind me he’s always with me and will never leave me and I really needed to hear that. 🙂